A couple comments on the history of the argument:
1. Contrary to what I’ve seen suggested here, I wouldn’t say that comments being deleted led to the thread going off the rails and/or being closed, at least not directly. My first comment that pissed Dan off, and his reaction to it, were deleted, but that deletion didn’t seem to upset people too much in the posts that immediately followed.
Later that day (after I got home from work), I came back and saw the uproar (even though the posts were gone, I could still see some of Dan’s response quoted in others’ posts) so I posted the long clarification that I pasted in this thread at #25. I made a few short posts in the back and forth that followed, but I don’t think anything too meaningful*. Dan wasn’t involved at that point. Then I went to bed and the thread was gone in the morning. So, unless there were posts deleted after that, and people raised a fuss about it, I would say that deleting posts had little to do with it.
* Learned that I missed a Fight Club reference, got called a weenie by Sam for ducking a flame war, normal stuff like that.
2. My first post was definitely not as long and probably not as clear as the follow-up in #25. While I’ve said that I can’t see how it’s threatening, that doesn’t mean it’s not possible someone else could take it the wrong way. It could be an honest miscommunication due to some combination of sloppy writing (me) and reading (Dan). FTR, it also wasn’t as civil—I was fired up myself and wasn’t really trying to be nice.
But here’s my beef: No reasonable person could take the follow-up post as a threat, and since it directly addresses all of the points of the original post, it’s now clear that even if I was threatening Dan previously, I’m certainly not anymore. So his actions after that point were not motivated by fear, but by anger. Even in his mind, at that point in time I was a reprehensible jagoff, but not a threat.
Also, Dan, you do realize when you say this:
########. His meaning was clear.
after I’ve been vehemently denying that I threatened you, that you’re calling me a liar, right? And pretty forcefully at that.