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Thursday, July 19, 2012

Kris And Anna Benson To Divorce After 13 Irritating Years

A Real Major League Ballplayer managing your money?  How can that go wrong?

Kris Benson and Anna Benson, overhyped sports power couple of all overhyped sports power couples, have decided that this is it: after 13 years of marriage, it’s divorce time.

Anna gave an interview to Fox News in which she acknowledged she served Kris with divorce papers in March after finding out about his infidelity. Kris, now a money manager, allegedly slept with one of his wife’s friends who he was supposed to be giving financial advice.

“She and Kris are both denying the affair, saying it was just ‘inappropriate talk,’” said Benson. “But I picked up his iPad and and I hit the Facebook button and looked at his inbox messages, and there were all of these sexy messages between them. And you just don’t talk with somebody like that that you’re not having sex with.” ...

Benson, who last pitched for Arizona in 2010, has been inextricably tied to and overshadowed by his bombastic wife throughout his career. (We couldn’t even be bothered to find a photo of him for this post.) In Pittsburgh, she told a magazine that they had had sex in the stadium parking lot, and wanted to try it outside every ballpark in the majors. In New York, she told Howard Stern that if he cheated on her, she’d sleep with all his Mets teammates. (Somewhere, Cliff Floyd wonders what the statute of limitations on that promise was.) And with Benson’s performance never quite living up to expectations, more than one team decided the package deal of Kris and Anna was more trouble than it was worth.

The District Attorney Posted: July 19, 2012 at 11:13 AM | 122 comment(s) Login to Bookmark
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   101. The Id of SugarBear Blanks Posted: July 19, 2012 at 06:09 PM (#4187448)
Well, you've got me there - I'm perfectly willing to acknowledge that people who don't have those reflexes, or who reason their way out of them, aren't reacting reflexively.

Except that by the same principle people can be sexually jealous through reason and/or deliberation.
   102. Brian C Posted: July 19, 2012 at 06:09 PM (#4187449)
What is entirely true is what was written in 78.

Why would what you wrote in #78 - which deals with capital-p Puritans - disqualify use of small-p "puritanical" (which is the only way I've used it)?
   103. Brian C Posted: July 19, 2012 at 06:10 PM (#4187451)
Except that by the same principle people can be sexually jealous through reason and/or deliberation.

I'll take your word for it.
   104. PreservedFish Posted: July 19, 2012 at 06:11 PM (#4187452)
Sexual betrayal is more visceral. You imagine your wife's sweaty naked body slapping against another sweaty naked body. That's obviously part of it, right?
   105. jobu Posted: July 19, 2012 at 06:12 PM (#4187454)
Meanwhile, somewhere, the 2010 Reno Aces are queueing up to collect on Anna Benson's vow (except the ones she views as "disgusting").
   106. Biscuit_pants Posted: July 19, 2012 at 06:13 PM (#4187455)
This just begs the question, though, of why they feel that way. Merely restating the question isn't really an answer.
Why they feel that way? That is pure biological, hormonal, endorphins are involved, biological changes occur, really if you get these same feelings from updating you facebook status then we have no common ground in which to speak. If you do not recognize how sex is different than pretty much any other behavior that the average person performs in the course of their day, week, month, year, then you are not doing it right.
   107. ellsbury my heart at wounded knee Posted: July 19, 2012 at 06:16 PM (#4187460)
I'm sure that there are people out there for whom the sex would be inconsequential in that case, but I don't think I'm wildly off base to say that those people are rare.


So I take it you're interested in the question of why monogamous sex is emotionally important to people? Is that kind of what you're getting at? I'm not sure you're going to find a satisfactory answer to that question outside of great literature or psychology, and probably not in a pithy post on a baseball discussion board. While I'm sympathetic to what I think is your point, monogamy is far too complicated a question to dismiss those who favor the concept as "puritanical."
   108. Never Give an Inge (Dave) Posted: July 19, 2012 at 06:17 PM (#4187461)

But to me the question is, would you be angrier to find out that she had been "spending her evenings reading romantic poetry in the arms of another man", or "spending her evenings reading romantic poetry in the arms of another man and having sex with him"?

I don't see why that's *the* question, but sure I would be. I'd also be angrier than if she were just having sex with him. It indicates another level of intimacy and another level of betrayal of trust. Would the sexual part of the relationship be a bigger violation than the non-sexual part? Thankfully I don't know, but either one on its own would be a dealbreaker, just as it would be for her if I did it.
   109. Srul Itza Posted: July 19, 2012 at 06:39 PM (#4187490)
If I found out that my wife had been hacking into my email/facebook/whatever account to snoop around on me, that would bother me as much as if I found out that she cheated on me. Yes, I understand that many people disagree, but talking about disagreements is a major reason that people discuss things.


That's an easy position to take on an anonymous internet site. But unless it actually happened to you in real life, I am going to write it off as internet grandstanding.
   110. Brian C Posted: July 19, 2012 at 06:41 PM (#4187493)
So I take it you're interested in the question of why monogamous sex is emotionally important to people? Is that kind of what you're getting at?

Well, sort of. I understand why it's important, but what I'm not sure I understand is why it's important above all else (for most people in most circumstances).

While I'm sympathetic to what I think is your point, monogamy is far too complicated a question to dismiss those who favor the concept as "puritanical."

You're probably right that it's unduly dismissive. From here on out, I take back my use of the word.

I don't see why that's *the* question, but sure I would be. I'd also be angrier than if she were just having sex with him. It indicates another level of intimacy and another level of betrayal of trust. Would the sexual part of the relationship be a bigger violation than the non-sexual part? Thankfully I don't know, but either one on its own would be a dealbreaker, just as it would be for her if I did it.

Ironically, I think that, for most people who would find themselves in an intimate-but-not-sexual relationship like the one you outline, the relationship would quite likely have remained sexless out of respect for the participants' significant others. Sure, in some cases there might be physical barriers, and in some the two people might just not be sexually attracted. But I've actually been in a situation sort of like that, where I didn't pursue sex because I didn't want to cheat on my girlfriend at the time. Maybe it would have happened or maybe not if I had, but either way it seemed noble to me then.

At any rate, I'm not so sure that you and I are so far apart on how we view things. We both agree that there are betrayals equal to or surpassing sexual infidelity; the rest is just ironing out the details of what is exactly how bad.
   111. Jose Molina wants a nickname like "A-Rod" Posted: July 19, 2012 at 07:30 PM (#4187523)
I just wanna know how I can get financial advice from Kris Benson. I'm absolutely positive it must be top notch.
   112. Non-Youkilidian Geometry Posted: July 19, 2012 at 08:07 PM (#4187552)
I just wanna know how I can get financial advice from Kris Benson. I'm absolutely positive it must be top notch.

Exactly. With Lenny Dykstra out of business I don't know where to turn.
   113. Lassus Posted: July 19, 2012 at 08:07 PM (#4187556)
I think this is an awesome discussion.

I would disagree that difficulty with infidelity has anything to do with marriage, though. It simply has to do with trust and intimacy.


That's an easy position to take on an anonymous internet site. But unless it actually happened to you in real life, I am going to write it off as internet grandstanding.

I usually think you're on the ball more than just about anyone here, Srul; but I think we can take Brian C at his word, I know other people who would feel the same. I would almost wonder if it's generational, I'd put Brian C at about 36, and I think people older and people younger don't have that same death-grip on trust issues. I almost think it has to do with the onset of VM, email, etc. from absolutely nowhere within our dating and marrying ages. I'd have to think more about it.


As far as monogamy, the idea that it isn't the end-all, be-all isn't new. At the same time, I've know a lot of poly people and poly relationships. Everyone always says they work, and I think the number is about 1 in 100, and this is from witnessing firsthand. I just haven't seen it.
   114. The Yankee Clapper Posted: July 19, 2012 at 08:45 PM (#4187583)
And now I'm getting "Flirt Live" ads from the website. Thanks Anna Benson!

In fairness to Ms. Benson, those ads appear to pre-date this thread. I suspect excessive discussion of comic books, professional wrestling and video games has caused BBTF to be targeted.
   115. bob gee Posted: July 19, 2012 at 08:58 PM (#4187595)
why the hatred towards anna?

i never liked her non-charity comments before, but if he did cheat on her and they weren't in an open marriage, the venom shouldn't be spewed in her direction.

   116. Brian C Posted: July 19, 2012 at 09:40 PM (#4187618)
I would almost wonder if it's generational, I'd put Brian C at about 36

Good guess! Turned 34 a couple months ago.

Holy Jesus, I'm 34.
   117. SoSH U at work Posted: July 19, 2012 at 09:44 PM (#4187623)
And now I'm getting "Flirt Live" ads from the website. Thanks Anna Benson!


It beats the Flirt ads on the Creamer thread.

   118. Srul Itza Posted: July 19, 2012 at 11:08 PM (#4187695)
I usually think you're on the ball more than just about anyone here, Srul; but I think we can take Brian C at his word, I know other people who would feel the same.


People say they feel that way. Like people say how they would react as regards any number of things, from being in a hold up to meeting someone famous, and on and on. They younger they are, the more sure they are as to how they would react.

Until it actually happens to you, you don't know. Things you think are not important to you in a hypothetical situation, come much more clearly into focus when it is your own flesh you smell burning.
   119. Brian C Posted: July 19, 2012 at 11:30 PM (#4187705)
Until it actually happens to you, you don't know. Things you think are not important to you in a hypothetical situation, come much more clearly into focus when it is your own flesh you smell burning.

FWIW, I think you're right, and that you have every reason to be skeptical.

That said, if I were held up, I'd pretend that I was terrified by screaming like a little girl before disarming the robber with a precisely placed karate kick when he was distracted. And if I met someone famous, I'd pull down my pants, show them my junk, and then get a quick photo of their reaction that I would then Tweet.
   120. ThisElevatorIsDrivingMeUpTheWall Posted: July 20, 2012 at 10:53 AM (#4187889)
Looking at someone's Facebook page isn't likely to give them an STD yet, is it?
   121. Zach Posted: July 21, 2012 at 06:54 AM (#4188596)
Biologically, men don't want to spend money on other men's kids and if their wife's ####### someone else they can't be certain they aren't.


This is a hilarious use of the word "biology". In case anyone's wondering, there has yet to be identified a biological process that makes men not want to spend money on the kids of other people.


I think you're overstating the case here. If you went up to 100 biologists and asked them to give you the most likely evolutionary basis for sexual jealousy, you'd probably get 99 responses along these lines. It would be trivial to construct a model in which jealousy pays off, just like it would be trivial to construct a model in which people still had an incentive to sow some wild oats, even while remaining jealous.
   122. Fancy Pants Handles lap changes with class Posted: July 21, 2012 at 07:56 AM (#4188600)
I would almost wonder if it's generational, I'd put Brian C at about 36, and I think people older and people younger don't have that same death-grip on trust issues. I almost think it has to do with the onset of VM, email, etc. from absolutely nowhere within our dating and marrying ages.

Porn. It's mostly internet porn.
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